Mar 31, 2011

Forty Recommendations for Home Part-2

--part 1 --

Forming the Household
Making a good choice when choosing a wife:
"And marry those among you who are single (i.e., a man who has no wife and a woman who has no husband) and (also marry) the saalihoon (pious, fit and capable ones) of your (male) slaves and maid-servants (female slaves). If they be poor, Allah will enrich them out of His Bounty. And Allah is All-Sufficient for His creatures’ needs, All-Knowing (about the state of the people)." [al-Noor 24:32]
The head of the household must select a righteous and suitable wife based on the following conditions described in various Ahaadeeth:
"A woman may be married for four things: her wealth, her lineage, her beauty or her religion. Choose the one who is religious, may your hands be rubbed with dust [i.e., may you prosper]!" (Agreed upon).
"This world is all temporary conveniences, and the greatest joy in this life is a righteous wife." (Reported by Muslim, 1468).
"Let every one of you have a thankful heart, a remembering tongue [remembering Allah] and a believing wife who will help him with regard to the Hereafter." (Reported by Ahmad, 5/282, and al-Tirmidhi and Ibn Maajah from Thawbaan. Sahih al-Jaami’, 5231).
According to another report: "A righteous wife to help you with your worldly and religious affairs is the best treasure anyone could have." (Reported by al-Bayhaqi. Sahih al-Jaami’, 4285).
"Marry one who is loving and fertile, for I will be proud before the other Prophets of your great numbers on the Day of Resurrection." (Reported by Ahmad. Sahih al-Irwa’, 6/195).
"I advise you to marry virgins, for their wombs are more fresh, their mouths are more sweet and they are more content with little." According to another report: "… and they are less likely to deceive." (Reported by Ibn Maajah. Al-Silsilah al-Sahih, 623).
Just as a righteous wife is one of the four elements of happiness, so a bad wife is one of the four elements of misery, as it says in the Sahih hadeeth:
"One of (the elements of) happiness is a righteous wife, who when you see her you feel pleased, and when you are away, you feel that you can trust her with regard to herself and your property. And one of (the elements of) misery is a bad wife who when you see her, you feel upset, she keeps attacking you verbally, and when you are away, you do not feel that you can trust her with regard to herself and your property."
On the other hand, it is also essential to look at the situation of the prospective husband who is proposing marriage to the Muslim woman, and to agree to his proposal in accordance with the following conditions:
The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said:
"If there comes to you one with whose religion and character you are pleased, then marry your daughter [or sister, etc.] to him, otherwise there will be fitnah and great corruption in the land."
All of the above must be achieved through asking the right questions, verifying facts, gathering information and checking sources, so that the home will not be corrupted or destroyed.

"The righteous man and righteous woman together will build a righteous home, because the vegetation of a good land comes forth (easily) by the Permission of its Lord, and that which is bad, brings forth nothing but a little with difficulty…" [al-A’raaf 7:58}

Striving to guide ones wife
If one's wife is righteous, this is a blessing indeed, and this is from the Bounty of Allah. If she is not that righteous, then it is the duty of the head of the household to strive to guide her. Any of the following scenarios may apply:
A man may marry a woman who is not religious in the first place, because he himself is not religious at first, or he may have married her in the hope of guiding her, or under pressure from his relatives, for example. In these cases he must strive hard to guide her.
A man must also realize from the outset that guidance comes from Allah, and that Allah is the One Who reforms people. One of His blessings to his slave Zakariya was, as He said (interpretation of the meaning):
"… and [We] cured his wife for him…"[al-Anbiya’ 21:90].
This curing or reforming may have been physical or religious. Ibn ‘Abbaas said:
"She was barren and could not have children, then she had a child."
Ataa’ said:
"She was harsh of tongue, and Allah reformed her."
There are various means of guiding or reforming ones wife, such as:
  • Paying attention to correcting her worship of Allah in all its aspects, as will be discussed in detail below.
  • Striving to strengthen her eemaan, such as:
    • Encouraging her to pray at night (qiyaam al-layl)
    • Encouraging her to read Qur'an
    • Encouraging her to memorize adhikaar (remembrance of Allah) and remember the appropriate times and occasions for saying them
    • Encouraging her to give charity
    • Encouraging her to read useful Islamic books
    • Encouraging her to listen to useful Islamic cassettes that can increase knowledge and strengthen eemaan – and continuing to supply her with them.
    • Choosing good, religious friends for her, with whom she can form ties of sisterhood and have good conversations and purposeful visits.
    • Protecting her from evil and blocking off all avenues for it to reach her, by keeping her away from bad companions and bad places.
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Mar 29, 2011

Forty Recommendations for Home Part-1

All praise be to Allah, we praise Him and seek His help and forgiveness. We seek refuge with Allah from the evil of our own selves and from our evil deeds. Whomsoever Allah guides, no one can lead astray, and whomsoever Allah leaves astray, no one can guide. I bear witness that there is no god but Allah Alone, with no partner or associate, and I bear witness that Muhammad is His slave and Messenger.
The home is a blessing.Allah says (interpretation of the meaning):

"And Allah has made for you in your homes an abode…"[al-Nahl 16:80]
Ibn Katheer (may Allah have mercy on him) said:

"Here Allah, may He be blessed and exalted, is mentioning His complete blessing to His slaves: He has given them homes which are a peaceful abode for them, to which they retreat as a haven which covers them and gives them all kinds of benefits."
What does the home represent to each one of us? Is it not the place where he eats, enjoys intimacy with his wife, sleeps and rests? Is it not the place where he can be alone and can meet with his wife and children?
Is the home not the place that offers cover and protection to women? Allah tells us (interpretation of the meaning):
"And stay in your houses, and do not display yourselves like that of the times of ignorance…"[al-Ahzaab 33:33]
If you think about those who are homeless, who live in shelters, or on the streets, or as refugees scattered in temporary camps, then you will realize the blessing of having a home. If you listen to a distressed homeless person saying, "I have nowhere to settle, no fixed place to stay. Sometimes I sleep in so and so’s house, sometimes in a café or park or on the sea-front, and I keep my clothes in my car", then you will realize the disruption that results from not having the blessing of a home.
When Allah punished the Jews of Banu Nadeer, He took away this blessing and expelled them from their homes, as He said (interpretation of the meaning):
"He it is Who drove out the disbelievers among the people of the Scripture (i.e. the Jews of the tribe of Banu al-Nadeer) from their homes at the first gathering."
Then He said:
"...they destroyed their own dwellings with their own hands and the hands of the believers. Then take admonition, O you with eyes (to see)."[al-Hashr59:2]
There are many motives for the believer to pay attention to putting his house in order.
Firstly: protecting himself and his family from the Fire of Hell, and keeping them safe from the burning punishment:
"O you who believe! Ward off from yourselves and your families a Fire (Hell) whose fuel is men and stones, over which are (appointed) angels stern (and) severe, who disobey not, (from executing) the Commands they receive from Allah, but do that which they are commanded." [al-Tahreem 66:6]
Secondly: the great responsibility borne by the head of the household on the Day of Reckoning The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said:
"Allah will ask every shepherd (or responsible person) about his flock (those for whom he was responsible), whether he took care of it or neglected it, until He asks a man about his household."
Thirdly: the home is a place to protect oneself, to keep away from evil and to keep one's own evil away from people. It is the refuge prescribed by Islam at times of fitnah (strife, tribulation).
The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said:
"Blessed is the one who controls his tongue, whose house is sufficient for him, and who weeps over his mistakes."
The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said:
"There are five things, whoever does one of them, Allah will be with him: visiting the sick, going out for jihad, entering upon his leader with the intention of rebuking and respecting him, or sitting in his home so that the people are safe from him and he is safe from the people."
The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said:
"The safety of a man at times of fitnah is in his staying home."
The Muslim can see the benefit of this advice when he is residing in a foreign land where he is unable to change much of the evil around him. Then he will have a refuge which, when he enters it, will protect him from doing haram things or looking at haram things, and will protect his wife from wanton display and unveiling, and will protect his children from bad company.
Fourthly: people usually spend most of their time at home, especially when it is very hot or very cold, when it is raining, early or late in the day, and after finishing work or school, so this time should be spent in worship and halal pursuits, otherwise it will be spent in wrongdoing.
Fifthly and most importantly, paying attention to the home is the most important means of building a Muslim society, because the society is formed of the households and families that form its building blocks. Households form neighborhoods, and neighborhoods form societies. If the building blocks are sound, the society will be based on the laws of Allah, standing firm in the face of enemies and filled with goodness that evil cannot penetrate. Then Muslim homes will produce pillars of society who will reform and guide it aright, such as exemplary dai’yahs, seekers of knowledge, sincere mujahideen, righteous wives, caring mothers and all other types of reformers.
Because this subject is so important, and our homes are full of so many shortcomings and evils and examples of negligence, this begs the very important question: What are the means of reforming our homes?
The following contains advice on this topic. May Allah benefit us from it, and cause the Muslims to focus their efforts on reviving the Muslim home.
All the following advice revolves around two things: achieving our interests, which is by establishing that which is right and good, and warding off evil, by removing that which can cause it or bring it into our homes.

-- part 2 -- 

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Mar 28, 2011

Allah is very Gracious and Kind to His slaves

....:: 42. Ash-Shura (Council, Consultation) - Makkah ::....

Allahu lateefun biAAibadihiyarzuqu man yashao wahuwa alqawiyyu alAAazeezu
TAMIL Translation  | Allama A.K.Abdul Hameed Baagavi(Rah)

Malayalam Translation | Cheriyamudam Abdul Hammed Madani & Kunchi Muhammed Parapur

ENGLISH Translation – Dr. Muhammad Taqi-ud-Din Al-Hilali, Ph.D. & Dr. Muhammad Muhsin Khan
[42:19] Allah is very Gracious and Kind to His slaves. He gives provisions to whom He wills. And He is the All-Strong, the All-Mighty.

(Allah is gracious unto His slaves) the pious as well as the sinful; it is also said that this means: His knowledge is gracious with His slaves, both the pious and sinful among them. (He provideth for whom He will) He expands the wealth of whomever He will. (And He is the Strong) in providing the sustenance of the slaves, (the Mighty) in retribution against those who do not believe.

URDU Translation | Dr. Col Muhammad Ayub

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Mar 27, 2011

How about achieving a 10/10 Iman?

In The Name of Allah, the Almighty

When we work on mastery programs, be it financial mastery, health mastery, relationship mastery or leadership mastery, we work to get a 10/10 rating in them. However, it is much more important for us to know what would it take to get a 10/10 rating in Iman and how would it look like.

10/10 Iman?
We should all strive for the Iman that will get us into Al-Firdous, the highest level of Paradise. But we cannot rate a 10/10 for our Iman because that would mean we have perfected Iman, which really is not possible.

10/infinity rating system
In this system, you rate the highest level of Iman as “infinity”: a level known to Allah alone. And we work every week/month/year to reach a better level of perfection.

First, write down your current Iman level. Just write the first number that comes to your mind. And write this in a paper. Let’s say, the number three. Now, write what is that you should do to take your Iman to the number four. May be you could improve your focus on prayer, or you could try to pray Fajr in the Masjid. Once you have defined number four, work on achieving it and becoming consistent in it. After that write down and work for number five and so on till you reach the number 10.

What if I reach my number 10
Once you reach the number 10 on the infinity scale, you will put your current Iman back to a lesser number and start again. Work your way to the new number 10 level.

The perfect Iman
Our beloved Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) had the most perfect Iman a human being could ever have. So, let’s try to emulate his life and worship to build our relationship with Allah. Insha Allah, with the blessing of Allah, we will then get more closer to our dream of having near-perfect Iman.

– Success Muslim


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Mar 25, 2011

Friday Post!!

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